10. You are almost always welcome in my home.
While hanging out at my house might not be even close to the adventures we used to go on together, it's still a way for us to hang out. It's easier for you to come to me than for me to go to you. I realize that it's not fair for you to always do the work of traveling to see me, but it's the stage of life I'm in, take it or leave it. One day, when the tables are turned, I will repay you by doing the same for you.
11. Bringing my kids to your home is stressful.
It's not fun or enjoyable to bring my kids to your house. I will worry the entire time that they are going to break something, make a mess or possibly set the house on fire. I will pray ahead of time they are on their best behavior, but let's be honest, kids are kids, and even the best of kids have a way of making visiting you incredibly stressful.
12. I want to live vicariously through you—sometimes.
My life is different now. It's not bad, it's just different. But I still enjoy listening to your stories! Sure, from time to time I will say that I wish I could still do what you are doing, but the truth is I mostly just want to live vicariously through you because I've accepted that this is my life. I like the early mornings, not being hungover all the time, eating family dinners and listening to how my kids’ days were at school. Don't feel bad sharing your life with me just because it's not MY life anymore. And hey, we can always plan that once-a-year friends trip and reminisce about the good old days, when the only thing we had to worry about was what class we wanted to sign up for.
13. I value our friendship, but I will not stop growing.
There are seasons of life. At one point we were in the same season, and therefore shared many commonalities. We are now in different seasons, and I'm not going to apologize for that. Some friendships survive the differences, other friendships thrive, while still others meet their demise. I love you and I hope that our friendship is one of those once-in-a-lifetime ones that remains strong through all the various growing points we both go through.
14. I care about you.
I know I just said I don't have much time these days, that my kids are my first priority and that friendships have had to take a back seat in my life. But that doesn't mean I don't care about you, or that I'm not devoting as much as I can to "us" these days. I care about you, really care about you. I wouldn't be telling you all this if I didn't.